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RE: Same gender attraction (for Mike and Kelly)
@Sam-Holt Hi Sam, so good to hear from you. Thanks for reaching out here. My heart goes out to your friend, and I'm praying for him. You are so right the Lord does have a heart for those precious souls who struggle with same-gender attraction. So much so that He gave His own heart, to be pierced and burst open for them on the Cross. I can deeply relate to your friend's concerns and fears. My first concern is when you say he has suppressed these feelings for a long time. I know how it is to live in that "pressure pot". I learned that I needed far more than suppressed feelings they needed to die, and they indeed died at the Cross, simply because I died at the Cross. That Kelly that lived according to her own understanding, the dictates of her flesh and emotions and the ideology of the world, died with the Lord Jesus on the Cross, was resurrected with Him with into new life, a new heart, new desires, a renewed mind and His Spirit that lives inside.
Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.
Praise God that your friend is a Christian too because he has died at the Cross as well and his freedom from these suppressed feelings that are related to his dead, crucified self, begins with believing this Gospel Truth.
Romans 6:10-11 The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God. In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin but alive to God in Christ Jesus.
My best encouragement to you is to keep pointing him to the Cross of Jesus wherein the Lord's death and resurrection his identity can be established. Jesus shed blood on the Cross not only washes away our sins, but it also does the daily work of washing our hearts, our mind, our flesh, our emotions from the desires of sin and the deceptions of sin. It seems that your friend is confusing, his same-sex attraction as being the same type of unity, bond, and heart knitting two Christians have with one another in Christ. That's not what Christ calls sin. Yet I somehow suspect how he may be confusing the two. That's a very common misconception associated with this sin. I simply can not think of anything more sufficient and more thorough than the rushing flood of the pure message of the Lord's death on the cross and resurrection from the grave continually washing over his heart transforming him from the inside out into the image of Christ.
I remember both being a student of Door of Hope and a Mentor of Door of Hope. While the lessons were insightful and very helpful, they were also a bit isolating. They kept me in the mindset that my struggle with homosexuality was somewhat unique and different and required a special dispensation of God's Grace for freedom as opposed to other forms of sexual impurity. This somehow kept me identifying myself with my sin rather than fully embracing my identity in Christ. So personally I don't like to recommend books or teachings that are designed to address overcoming homosexually and I have tried several. They are too distracting in the way they address the "what and why" of this sin and are not cross-centered enough in addressing how to be free of it which is of most important. I love the story of the Children of Israel who were bitten by snakes because of their murmuring against God. It helps explain what I mean so clearly. Their condition was serious and fatal. People were dying a slow agonizing death all around them. Yet God's solution was simple yet profound; Look at the snake risen on the pole and live. He didn't ask them to examine their wound, pick it apart to figure out how deep the venom had gone, and what organs were impacted and how. He simply said, look and live.
Numbers 21:7-8 The people came to Moses and said, "We sinned when we spoke against the LORD and against you. Pray that the LORD will take the snakes away from us." So Moses prayed for the people. The LORD said to Moses, "Make a snake and put it up on a pole; anyone who is bitten can look at it and live."
This was pointing us ahead to Christ. The snake on the pole was representative of sin, and on the Cross Jesus became sin. He was lifted up on the pole and when we keep turning our hearts to Him, He draws out the poison of sin that is running through every part of us.
Sam, I really hope this helps, I'm praying for you and your dear friend.
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Question 4. What does focusing on the good news that happened at the cross do for your heart and mind? Please share your thoughts.
"Focusing on the cross enables me to see Truth! My identity is found in the fact that God loves me enough to sacrifice His Son for me, and Jesus loves me enough to die a horrible death and be separated from His Father for me. Focusing on this truth helps me to trust Him more (His promises and character), and see the cross as beautiful thing. When I focus on Christ and the cross, I stop thinking about my life and the “what if’s.” I start resting in His ways and put my hope in His plan. I start drawing on the power of His resurrection that is in me."
Lesson 30 Testimony
Question 3. What changes have taken place in your life over the previous 30 lessons?
Wow. What an HONOR to share this testimony for the Glory of JESUS MY LORD!!
I have seen astounding transformation during these 30 lessons!! Transformation that is hard even putting into words!!
Tears fill my eyes because of the LOVE and respect I feel for my JESUS. The joy. The completeness. The oneness. The intimacy with my Savior these days. (Even tho I've been a Christian since 2009, the love I have for my JESUS is in my understanding sooo much deeper, sweeter, more rooted and grounded and mature than ever before.
He has won my heart with LOVE. Not with condemning me. Making me feel bad etc. Because I cant even really start describing how HORRIBLE I already felt about myself living in sexual sin. Pornography. Self gratification. One darkness after the other. And it started with such a small thing. NEVER believed I'd fall into such a trap as this. Never. And now as a CHRISTIAN?!? Never gonna happen.
But God showed me my pride. God revealed to me how I trusted in MY OWN EFFORTS and strength, and He let me mess up and fall so badly that i was completely broken and humbled and I knew it was only JESUS who could rescue me. Not me. Not my godliness. Not my strength. Not my determination. Not my self control. Not my earnestness and devotion and reading the word of God daily. But its only JESUS. The CROSS that breaks sins power.
Jesus and the cross. My ONLY hope. Once I finally realized that, and the Holy Spirit helped me BELIEVE this, things changed.
It stripped me of my ego and pride. And I came with my shame, nakedness and nothingness to the cross of JESUS!!! In desperate need for help. Knowing that HE was the ONLY one who could break away my chains of sexual sin. He was the ONLY one who could save and rescue me out of this. Not me. Not in my own efforts. EVERYTHING else failed but.. JESUS!!!!!
And oh how free my heart feels. It just leaps for JOY!!!
I am beyond GRATEFUL!!!
And I LOVE HIM MORE!!! That's about what I can say right now. I am just in awe and wonder of the ONE who died to give me life. Yes, EVEN ME!!!! So humbled at that fact. In awe!!!
Did you know that SCF has a “Doctrinal Statement?”
Did you know that SCF has a “Doctrinal Statement?”
Every once in awhile, someone will ask us about what we believe about certain theological positions that are found in a variety of denominations, non-denominations around the world. We had such an inquiry this week and would like to share our response:
• What is your take on [a particular theological position]?
We don't try to make any "point" concerning theological systems. Our ministry is focused on presenting and showing others how to apply the Gospel (Jesus' death, burial, and resurrection - 1 Corinthians 15:3-4) to all of life. We believe that the message of the Cross is not merely for salvation, but for all of life. Paul's ministry was evident, and his message was "Jesus Christ and Him crucified." (1 Corinthians 2:2).
"But we preach Christ crucified, to the Jews a stumbling block and to the Greeks foolishness," (1 Corinthians 1:23 NKJV)
"O foolish Galatians! Who has bewitched you that you should not obey the truth, before whose eyes Jesus Christ was clearly portrayed among you as crucified?" (Galatians 3:1 NKJV)
"But God forbid that I should boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, by whom the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world." (Galatians 6:14 NKJV)
"Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ (9) and be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith; (10) that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death," (Philippians 3:8-10 NKJV)
Paul used that Gospel message of the death, burial, and resurrection, and utilized this Gospel to "spinoff" and point to other doctrinal and life application. Look at the book of Romans; Paul points to the death, burial, and resurrection throughout. Paul applies the Cross to sin throughout the whole book. Paul shows what was accomplished in dealing with sin and how to now live as believers. In the light of this Gospel of the Cross and the power of the resurrection, we live.
The Lord has called us to focus this ministry on the application of the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ, to all of life.
Others are called to focus on other aspects of theology like eschatology, ecclesiology, systematic theology, ordo salutis, etc. But we desire to have only one message, Jesus Christ and Him crucified.
One thing I have personally found, the common bond I have with Christians. All Christians from all sorts of denominations, non-denominations, differing theological perspectives have the Gospel, Jesus' death on the Cross for sins, burial, and resurrection in common. All agree that a person needs to believe and put their faith and trust in Jesus Christ and the substitutionary death for their sins. We all believe that Jesus was buried and rose on the third day, according to scriptures. We all believe that Jesus was the God/Man and was the only mediator between God and man.
I recently listened to Ravi Zacharias at the Mormon Tabernacle on YouTube. I like listening to Ravi's answers to questions, and he is a wonderful apologist. I was very curious as to what he would say from the pulpit of "a church" that I feel misrepresents the Gospel and the deity of Christ. Without "attacking," he presented an Old Testament history lesson of two kings. One destroyed the nation of Israel (Manasseh – 2 Kings 21), leading the nation into idolatry and another king (the grandson, Josiah – 2 Kings 22-23) who lead the nation back to the Lord and His word. Then Ravi gave an unambiguous presentation of Jesus crucified, pointing the audience to the Cross, challenging the people to read John 14 and consider the person of Jesus Christ. He did this with grace and humility, pointing to the crucified Jesus.
When I keep my focus on the Cross, I can see how many other "doctrinal" issues that do not lead me to the Cross – is foolishness. I don't have to "argue" and point out errors and heresies. No, I need to keep pointing to the Cross and the One who bled and died for me. Then I remind myself that I have been buried with Him and raised with Him. I am a new creature in Christ, I have been crucified with Jesus and am now so in love, that I only want to focus on the crucified Christ. I am learning that all "good" theology will spinoff from a proper understanding of Jesus' death on the Cross, His burial, and resurrection. If I lose sight of the Cross, I will be wandering in a labyrinth of endless dead-end paths that will only "tickle the ears" and lead to destruction. There is no power in "points of theology." The power of the Gospel, (Jesus' death, burial, and resurrection), points me to Himself and there I find that my heart has been changed by the blood that was shed on the Cross.
I trust this is helpful and that you understand what we hold to dearly as our only hope – Jesus Christ and Him crucified.