April writes, "I started taking the A United Front course just so my husband would take the Purity Bootcamp course. I thought he was the one with the issues, but I wanted him to see that I was at least willing to try. Within a very few lessons, I realized how much bitterness, anger, and fear there was in my own heart. I saw that I hadn't given over my entire life to Jesus; that I was holding on to things and never really gave him everything. I saw the depth of love Jesus has for me; how he humbled himself to the point of being a servant and was obedient to the point of an agonizing death just so I could be free of my own sins. It really made me examine if I truly had the right to be so angry at my spouse and others in my life who have wronged me.
After confessing my own sin to God, I felt free—freer than I have ever felt—and I have been a Christian my whole life. For the first time, I gave everything over to him. It was like Jesus came into my heart with a broom and swept everything clean. There wasn't a room He wasn't allowed in or a closet He couldn't open. I let him clean everything. It feels so good to not have that anger and bitterness hanging over me anymore. When I look at my relationships now, my desire is to care for others. For those that have hurt me, I think of the chains holding them down, and I want to pray for them. I see my husband and his struggles, and it makes me want to join him in the fight as his ally and friend.
We started these lessons not really being able to talk much with each other. We had both put up so many walls in our hearts. We were both so tired of the fighting and the pain and desperate to figure out how to fix it, but not sure how. I came across this course online and suggested to my husband that we do the two courses at the same time. It helped him immensely to know that I was doing it with him.
Within the first few lessons, I saw a change in both him and me. We both realized that we needed God's help and that God was more than willing to step in and give us a hand. We discovered that we could trust God with our marriage and that, with Him, truly anything is possible.
My husband started talking to me, wanting to know how I was doing, even if it was hard. He started to tell me what was going on with him, sharing his struggles. He had never done that before. Now he genuinely wanted to know how I was doing. God was very gentle and kind in showing me that my view of intimacy with my husband was wrong. I had been tainted by a worldly perspective and had no real, solid foundation of a biblical view of physical intimacy and the way God designed it. He graciously showed me the right way to see my husband and our marriage, all while teaching my husband at the same time. He worked on both of us individually at the same time and, through that, brought us together.
Now, my husband and I talk to each other about everything, even if it's difficult. We are determined to not keep secrets from each other or from God. We both want there to be no walls between us, and that is a miracle because there were many walls before. We aren't perfect; we haven't gotten everything figured out. But at least now we are headed in the right direction, and we know that with God leading, we will be okay.
I recommend this course. Oftentimes, in our desire to fix things, we forget to go right to God. We don't want to take our troubles to Him, and we don't think he can really do anything practical to help us. That couldn't be further from the truth. This course pushes you repeatedly back to the power of the cross. The gospel truly has the power to save us and bring healing to our souls. Both my husband and I could feel God working through this course. We could feel God saying, "Don't give up! I will get you through this!", and that's exactly what God is doing. Therapy and counseling have their place, but God is our best counselor because only he knows what's actually going on in your heart. This course helped me to see that.