We wanted to share our testimony of anger and rage in our marriage and how it was put to death in Christ on His cross. The years that had been taken and lost were restored through Jesus' shed blood and by His resurrection power that raised us up and set us free.
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Erick wrote; Although I do not remember how the argument started, or what lead up to my anger that day, I do remember where we were and the details leading up to an anger that would shock even me. I was 15 years old when my older brother and I had gotten into one of our usual arguments. He began poking me in the chest with his finger while asking, “what are you going to do”? I was getting irritated that he was poking me, and I could feel my anger rising within me. On and on it went, “What are you going to do?" as he continued to poke his finger into my chest. My temperature rose with every poke. With every word. “What are you going to do?
Sylvia wrote; I am sure some of you can relate or have seen this for yourself in 3D. This reminds me of the scripture in Ephesians 6:4 that tells fathers to not exasperate (or provoke) their children. Unfortunately, I had seen much anger in my upbringing between my father and mother and never thought that I would be married in a similar situation. I always told myself that I would never live in a situation like my mother’s abuse. Regardless of our ages, regardless of our upbringings, regardless of our sin choices and consequences that we brought upon ourselves, it was a sin that only Jesus can heal him from regarding his anger. I may have not had bad anger myself, but I felt my anger increase as my husbands increased, which only fueled the fire.
Erick wrote; Once my internal temperature reached its boiling point, I tackled my brother to the ground (we were outside on our concrete driveway), venting all the steam that had built up inside me. After a brief skirmish, I got up, thinking “What just happened?” But that bout of anger soon left and I went on about my day as though nothing had happened. This initial anger burst would later turn into rage and would seek to destroy all that was important to me. My wife, my family, my children.
Sylvia wrote; As a young wife and young mom, marriage was a lonely road for me. I tried hard to be the best wife because (as most of us do) we feel that we could fix, resolve problems, fix sticky situations, and calm the anger moments. But I couldn’t fix or help my husband with his anger. It was definitely out of my hands and to interfere was not a good idea. This scripture in Matthew 11:28 spoke wonders to my soul, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” My spirit became very calm and it was a beautiful season in my life to listen to the still small voice of Jesus speak to my heart.