Perhaps when you were first married, you felt desire for your spouse, but now sin and betrayal have clouded your viewpoint, and you no longer see anything desirable about your spouse. Or maybe you are like me, I desired my husband, but he used to reject my sexual advances, which was deeply wounding.
It is true, sin destroys, but we must remember that Jesus saves and restores. Through His death on the cross and His resurrection, He brings love, forgiveness, grace, and healing, where it is needed (Mark 2:17)! Where sin ruins, Jesus restores. Where sin kills, Jesus brings new life.
Indeed, we can find healing for our hearts and gospel empowering strength in Christ’s love. Jesus kisses us with a thousand kisses of pardon every day. He loves us and covers our sin with His precious blood. There is nothing more intoxicating than His love for us—His perfect, everlasting, unfailing, always faithful, never wavering love—which He displayed so vividly by stretching His arms wide and dying on the cross in our place. And this incredible, exquisite love has been poured into our hearts through His Holy Spirit which He has given to us as a Comforter (Romans 5:5; John 14:16). His name is music to our ears, comfort to our minds, and peace to our souls. He is Jesus—our Lover and our Beloved.
Question 3. Do you feel Christ’s love for you; do you desire Him? Please share.
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Oh, friend, Jesus has called you into a relationship with Him for His joy and yours (Psalm 37:4)! He wants you to find pleasure in Him, for when you do, you will say with the bride, "Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful." Song of Solomon 1:16
We must delight ourselves in the Lord because as we do, we are enabled to forgive and again enjoy physical intimacy in marriage.
If we believe in the resurrection, then we must believe it in a way that permeates to every area of life. When Jesus rose from the dead, He was not a ghost or the shell of a person. He was fully alive – able to be touched, to eat, to speak, to be seen. Similarly, when the gospel touches our marriages, they are raised from the dead, healed and restored, not in part but wholly.
You must not deny yourself the delight of physical intimacy in your marriage because to refuse intimacy with your repentant spouse is to deny the healing and restorative power of the gospel.
The joy of physical intimacy in marriage is comparable to the believer's joy in Jesus Christ, who having not seen, yet we love and rejoice in Him "with joy unspeakable and full of glory" (1 Peter 1:8). This is the same joy that we spouses can get a taste of on this earth, during physical intimacy, if we will seek for it.
Question 4. How can experiencing joy in Christ and His gospel help restore the pleasure of sexual intimacy in your marriage?
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